In praise of praise

Yesterday evening I met with my friend and colleague Richard Pelletier. We came together with the small group of four writers we’re currently supporting as they progress with personal writing projects. The meeting was online, not least because Richard lives on Whidbey Island, off the coast of Seattle. 

A fine writer, Richard is also a gifted photographer who takes stunning, often black-and-white, shots of the Whidbey Island land- and seascapes. I’ve been there and I understand why he is moved to do so. With its rugged coastline and heavily wooded interior, it’s a place of great natural beauty. His connection to the place where he lives is palpable in these pictures, and it makes me think about my own connection to my surroundings here in Highland Perthshire.

Whidbey Island by Richard Pelletier

Today it’s a typical early winter’s day. There’s snow on the hills, the sky is brilliantly blue with low sunlight catching the last of the autumn colours, and there’s a biting wind. After weeks of unseasonably mild, damp weather, this cold turn feels strangely exhilarating.

Like Richard I’m lucky to live in the midst of great natural beauty. Some of Scotland’s most celebrated countryside is on my doorstep, and there’s more close at hand. Last week I drove two-and-a-half hours to the west coast for a meeting, a journey through a landscape of high hills, rivers and lochs that I haven’t made for some time, and my heart was in my mouth the whole way.

Most days I leave the house in the morning to work in one of two cafés in our village. Yesterday morning I was in the closer of the two, 150 yards from home, which until very recently was also the Post Office. That has now closed and the café has expanded. It’s a friendly place, where village old-timers and other regulars mix with passing tourists and, once a week, the group of whip-thin, lycra-clad cyclists of a certain age for whom the café is a welcome refuelling point on their seventy-five-mile circuit from Dundee.

Over the last few days the place has been vibrating with excitement in the aftermath of Scotland’s World Cup football qualification. To be there in the warmth on a freezing day like yesterday, in an atmosphere so infused with banter and bonhomie, is to experience a powerful sense of community. Leaving aside the football miracle, it makes me wonder if, and to what extent, mood and disposition are affected by where we live. Could living in a beautiful place make one better disposed to connect with one’s fellows? 

The Scots are a people not renowned for effusion. The best you might normally hope for is a muttered ‘nae bad’, while for someone who has done something particularly outstanding, the standard put-down is ‘Aye, weel, ah kent his faither.’ But for the last forty-eight hours the airwaves have been ringing with praise for the Scottish team and their manager, as our nigh-on-thirty-year World Cup drought comes to an end. 

It may be catching. In the café yesterday morning I was talking to a neighbour who was apologising for not having had time to read my recent blog posts. I told him there was no need to apologise. ‘But I do,’ he said. ‘I need to read your blog. It’s life-affirming.’ I gulped and mumbled something self-deprecating, as we do. 

Later on, I was playing the piano in the pub at the regular session with musician friends. At the bar all evening, apparently enjoying the music, was a lone customer. As I was leaving he came up to me and hesitantly told me that he was a part-time resident of the village and a regular follower of the blog. He said that his wife, whose family had had to flee their country many years ago for political reasons, had been moved by my recent post about the Canadian Indian residential  schools, with its themes of dispossession and loss of heritage.

I was touched, and pleased, and told Sarah about it when I got home. As I was going to sleep I remembered a writing workshop I’d run many years ago in a prison. In a somewhat apathetic group of about a dozen prisoners there was one who immediately caught my attention. He was heavily tattooed and menacing-looking, but he had a magnetic energy about him, and for that hour he was attentive and eager and wanted to learn everything from me he could. I was later told that he had been a Glasgow gangland hitman.

For the finale I invited everyone to write a poem. His was about the prison governor. It was irreverent and funny and I congratulated him. As I did so I sensed a sudden vulnerability in him and it occurred to me that he might never have been praised for anything before in his life. As if in confirmation, rather than dropping to the floor, his gaze softened into a broad, childlike smile. In that moment it seemed like one of the most beautiful things I had ever seen.

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7 Responses to In praise of praise

  1. What more… – e’en with the best will in the world…. – could I (potentially / prospectively usefully and of interest) extend, by way of being In praise of ‘In praise of praise’?! Searching my soul and sentiment dedicated to admiring absorption of such an additional Testament, I’d venture to offer my resulting sensation to the effect that tracts – regardless of subject-matter / topic – seldom reflect such continuous and pure genuine, factual experience and thinking, which not only rarefies those few that do so, but also sets them way above almost all other compositions reflecting imagination and fiction, as opposed to actual experience, impression and fact……Thank You So Much!

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  2. Melissa writes: the last line in your blog made me cry. There is so much we do not know about what people go through. If we could see inside and be able to give everyone a virtual hug – we all need reassurance, I think.

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  3. Andy writes: Wonderful Jamie 

    As yer man said ‘life affirming’.

    You may remember my Dad was Glaswegian and although an exile in Plymouth for most of his adult life was a fiercely proud Scot. He loved his football – love with which he both infused and infected me. I supported Scotland before I supported England and still consider my self an honorary ‘Jock’ as all the Scots in my dad’s working men’s club were known. I thought of him on Tuesday night and imagined his ebullience in those astonishing last 4 minutes of the game. Sport at its best is drama. And Tuesday was drama of the first order.

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  4. Ewan's avatar Ewan says:

    Highland Perthshire is indeed life affirming. Would that the same could be said of the A9, the road serving this glorious area, and indeed Inverness and all to the north.

    In six weeks time we will reach the date by which, back in 2011, the Scottish Government undertook to have this most lethal road upgraded to a dual carriageway fit for current traffic flows. Yet none but the easiest sections – the ‘lowest hanging fruit’- have been tackled. And, year after year, the death toll continues.

    Time, ahead of next May’s elections, to turn the power of your pen towards the failure to tackle this Highland bloodletting of this, our era?

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  5. instantfuturisticallyec90f9944b's avatar Caroline Strobos says:

    Not only do we need to praise more often, but we need to accept it well and heartily, ie not mumbling something self-deprecatingly. Praise to you is well deserved. These blogs DO bring a little kindness into our hearts. How great is that?

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  6. wrbcg's avatar wrbcg says:

    Another brilliant, heart-warming piece that touches the soul. I love how you write and am in awe at such talent. People don’t praise one another nearly enough but the hard part is not so much the giving of praise but the ability to receive it without being self-deprecating – something I need to learn.

    I´m sure that where we live has an effect on mood and disposition, but I think that climate is a bigger factor than living in a place of great beauty. There are many beautiful parts of Galicia, but the people are more like the Scots than their Spanish neighbours in neighbouring León.

    When I was young, as I suspect many youths do, I wanted city life, but as I’ve got older I’ve found that what I want (and need) is rural living, surrounded by nature and open spaces that bring me a sense of peace and well-being.

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